My husband said something the other night that made me realise how negative I had been this year.
After yet another one of our blowouts about the business, he said to me, “Pinar, saying something nice is the harder option”.
I was taken aback for a moment, and it took me a few minutes to truly digest what that meant.
And then it hit me like a tonne of bricks, and I won't lie, the truth hurt.
It wasn’t that I was just going through a bad time and everyone and everything around me sucked.
I just had lost all self-control and I was choosing the easy way out.
And that’s all it came down to.
Because when you think about it, anyone can complain - that’s stuff is easy.
Anyone can criticise - that’s easy.
Anyone can blame - that’s easy.
Finding something good, despite the bad.
Finding something someone did right, despite their mistakes.
Praising others, despite their flaws.
That stuff is hard.
That requires real character.
That requires self-control.
And I had lost ALL of it this year, and my poor hubby has been copping it.
I had been taking out all my frustrations on him.
And it was unfair.
Which is exactly why I started my "Upgraded Life" Group on Monday.
To regain self-control and get my life back on track.
And I know it’s gonna be hard because I have been complaining, blaming and criticising on autopilot and it’s become a habit.
And I believe in change and I know things can be better.
And I am one determined mofo and won’t give up until I get there.
Want to join me on this journey?
Join our "Upgraded Life - Mindset Challenge" Facebook Group here.
See you there! xo